10 ways to turn on the man… in bed!!!:
These are just a few ideas…I’ve got a few more up my sleeve, but we’ll save those for a later time! ;)
1. Talk dirty (kinky!- moan, say his name, talk about what you like)
2. Tell each other or write down fantasies
3. Do it in the shower
4. Be submissive
5. Use toys/handcuffs/scarfs
6. Tatoo- on “those parts”… or a “tramp stamp” on your back
7. Have quickies
8. Dress up
9. Pretend you’re someone else or with someone else and act out the parts
10. Go on your lunch break to the mall and venture into the family restroom or dressing room
11. Take dirty pictures during the day to send to him
12. Text or email what you want to do to him later… and what you want him to do to you
13. Show him how you can touch yourself
14. Strip for him… and don’t let him touch you right away
15. Lay him down or have him stand above you and you lick…
What are some that YOU like to use?
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Friday, October 17, 2008
SeX sEx SeX
So... this topic. Who thinks about it? When? Men more than women? At different times than women? How much does a good or bad sex life affect a relationship?
In my opinion... I think everyone thinks about it. A lot. I think some people do more than others, of course... but I happen to not necessarily think that men ALWAYS do more than women. I know a lot of women (myself included) that think about it more than some men I'm sure do. I also think that a good or bad sex life definately affects a relationship. If you're not in-tune or as attracted to your significant other "in that way" as you could be, or very much... thats not good.
I think sex in a relationship is extremely important! I really do! If you're not in-sync with your partner in this way... can a relationship last? I don't know the answer to that for other people... But, for myself, the answer is no. Not because sex is everything, cuz its not. Rather because I've had boyfriends that I wasn't in-sync with, and it wasn't too fun. I think somehow it just casts a shadow over the other parts of your relationship that are okay. I just plain don't like having the sexual chemistry w/someone! But, on the other hand, when you do have the sexual chemistry with someone- it is good! It is nice, you usually like the same things, etc... You want it when the other person wants it (for the most part...), even when you're out at night you both may look at each other and know its time to go! Or on a certain night, in the morning, whatever it may be!
In addition... what ways do you like to do it? Morning? Night? Mid-day? In bed? Random places? For me... yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. :) Now, speaking of....
In my opinion... I think everyone thinks about it. A lot. I think some people do more than others, of course... but I happen to not necessarily think that men ALWAYS do more than women. I know a lot of women (myself included) that think about it more than some men I'm sure do. I also think that a good or bad sex life definately affects a relationship. If you're not in-tune or as attracted to your significant other "in that way" as you could be, or very much... thats not good.
I think sex in a relationship is extremely important! I really do! If you're not in-sync with your partner in this way... can a relationship last? I don't know the answer to that for other people... But, for myself, the answer is no. Not because sex is everything, cuz its not. Rather because I've had boyfriends that I wasn't in-sync with, and it wasn't too fun. I think somehow it just casts a shadow over the other parts of your relationship that are okay. I just plain don't like having the sexual chemistry w/someone! But, on the other hand, when you do have the sexual chemistry with someone- it is good! It is nice, you usually like the same things, etc... You want it when the other person wants it (for the most part...), even when you're out at night you both may look at each other and know its time to go! Or on a certain night, in the morning, whatever it may be!
In addition... what ways do you like to do it? Morning? Night? Mid-day? In bed? Random places? For me... yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. :) Now, speaking of....
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Life Wants
Do you ever think about what you want in life? Will you do whatever it takes to get it?
For me, a lot of my life wants involve the person I want it with. So, I'll give you my "5 year plan"... but basically into my life of what I want (involving not just me!)...
I want... to fall in love with my best friend, my soul-mate, someone that i'm SO comfortable with, that makes me laugh, that we share the same values, that is my other half, that will support me when I'm down, that I can tell anything to, and... that is the love of my life. I've found him.
I want... to get married. I used to want a big, traditional, church wedding. Part of me still wants this, but I'm at a place now where I would feel so happy getting married... wherever. To me, now, its not so much about all of the "things" at a wedding (ie: the flowers, decor, music, etc), but actually about the two people that are getting married, and then their families that go along with it. I want it to be about the people, and have some romance, not just business-like "stuff". I would go get married tomorrow @ the city hall... and never look back, I'm sure of it! Having that person to spend the rest of your life with is what has the appeal to me. Someone to count on and make a life with. But, I still think it'd be fun, once the pressure of the actual marriage is over... to have a re-vow church ceremony and reception/dance if we'd want! Church is important to me, and so is family... so that'd be fun b/c the actual marriage would have happened already- so no pressure! If I'd have a traditional wedding, though, I'd maybe go all out. I've been engaged, and had it be a lot of my wants, which was important to him b/c it was to me... but this time I'd have it be about what WE want. I would definitely want our families to play a huge role in helping. Their support and help would be amazing, and I know we both have good enough families that this would happen! A big family event! With of course all of our friends. We both like to dance and party a little so it'd be a blast! I would also run off to Vegas or fly to a tropical island, no doubts about either! No matter how I get married, though, I want some special vows... something we both say from the heart!
I want... lots of fun times! Vacations, get-togethers, family reunions, parties, etc! Celebrate lots of things!
I want... a deck and room for entertaining. I want to have people over for dinner, for drinks, for Super-Bowl parties, etc!
I want... to throw birthday parties! I want to bake cakes for our birthdays, my kids... and go all out! I want them to feel SO special on this day! I want to plan and decorate and have everyone feel so good about having fun!
I want... to always stay close to my/our families. I want to frequent home for special events, like births, birthdays, family suppers, family reunions, etc. I also want them to come visit and stay a lot on the weekends and come for our parties and functions!
I want... to always be in love and have the feeling that my boyfriend/fiance/husband will never leave me. I want to feel content and know we are partners in life... through good and bad, ups and downs, when its easy or hard.
I want... to have some kids! I'm not sure how many, but I want them! Sometimes I want 2, plus ... sometimes I want 3 (and people think I'm crazy!)...sometimes 4. I also think it'd be a blast to have twins! We'll see, but I know I/we want them. I want my/our kids to have amazing parents, as I know I will be the best mom ever also!
I want... to be an amazing mom!
I want... to have girls nights out on a regular basis! To go have drinks and be silly and talk about stuff that guys hate! I want to talk about guys and in the future our kids... and clothes and romance and work, etc! These are important!
I want... my husband to have lots of friends and never feel bothered when I want to hang out with my girlfriends! He should want to hang out with his friends on a regular basis as well... they should go golfing and get drinks and go to football games without women bugging them!
I want... to have open and honest communication, as well as compromise, at all times. Its important to not let things build up and bother you, and the person I'm with should be able to communicate to me- and I PROMISE I will be on their side! They should talk to me and me to them, and if we don't agree... b/c we won't always!... then we come to a compromise that we both agree on.. no neither one us us feels compromised! :) I want to be able to talk about serious things, dreams, wants, work, life, kids, everything.
I want... to have it be a fall Saturday and I go out to lunch with a friend while I have a pregnant belly... and know my husband is on the couch watching a football game with a beer... and I'll come home and relax in the office on the computer or making some food in the kitchen... then later we'll go out for dinner with our friends.
I want... to go on walks and runs and bike-rides in the summer!
I want... to grill out. Even brats. Turkey cheddar brats with ketchup and mustard and no bun. I'll make potatoes and all sorts of other things. And someday have a CHARCOAL grill- even just a little one! For the taste! And we'll make s'mores too.
I want... to cook lots of food. Pork roast in the crockpot, chicken casserole, chicken and dumplings, lasagna, egg bake, grilled cheese and tomato/chicken noodle soup, spaghetti, tuna casserole and blueberry muffins, etc.
I want... to have days I can spend all alone at "our" house cleaning! Everyone goes away and its just me to do laundry, wash the floors, vacuum, dust, wash the tubs and toilet (I despise that part!), make the beds, etc!
I want... to go to baseball games during the summer! From little league, then our kids, to my brothers, our family, I-Cubs, professional, anything! I love the game and sounds and food and atmosphere!
I want... to go to Iowa Hawkeye football games! Someday to have season tickets and it be a regular Saturday in the fall kinda thing. And, if I wouldnt want to go to all of them... I still want to be part of it... Or I could even tailgate! Just the general aspect of it is so much fun!
I want... to have romantic stuff. Not all the time... and not over-the-top... but a flower every once in a while, or a card or email "just because"... this means the world to me! Just to feel special and wanted.
I want... to have lots of sex. Good sex. Crazy-fun sex; slow, tired sex; lots of kissing sex; I-can't-believe-we-did-that sex; intense sex. I want it all- with the person that I love to do it with... and that loves to do it with me!
I want... holidays full of excitement. I want to spend nights wrapping Christmas gifts... Halloweens dressing up... Easters hiding eggs for the kids... etc.
I want... for "us" to pick out "our" house... and have to fix it up. To paint it, get new furniture, and decorate it!
I want... to be in the house doing some cooking/cleaning/scrapbooking/whatever... while my husband is outside mowing the lawn and dinking around with tools!
I want... to spend lazy nights ordering pizza. Ones where we just want to rent a movie and do nothing!
I want... to be in on conversations with who we WANT and DON'T WANT to do well... for Sunday and Monday pm Fantasy Football!
I want... a new car... And help picking it out! Something that will be perfect... really pretty and something I look hot driving, of course... but with enough room to pick people and a family up!
I want... no doubt about me being "The One".
For me, a lot of my life wants involve the person I want it with. So, I'll give you my "5 year plan"... but basically into my life of what I want (involving not just me!)...
I want... to fall in love with my best friend, my soul-mate, someone that i'm SO comfortable with, that makes me laugh, that we share the same values, that is my other half, that will support me when I'm down, that I can tell anything to, and... that is the love of my life. I've found him.
I want... to get married. I used to want a big, traditional, church wedding. Part of me still wants this, but I'm at a place now where I would feel so happy getting married... wherever. To me, now, its not so much about all of the "things" at a wedding (ie: the flowers, decor, music, etc), but actually about the two people that are getting married, and then their families that go along with it. I want it to be about the people, and have some romance, not just business-like "stuff". I would go get married tomorrow @ the city hall... and never look back, I'm sure of it! Having that person to spend the rest of your life with is what has the appeal to me. Someone to count on and make a life with. But, I still think it'd be fun, once the pressure of the actual marriage is over... to have a re-vow church ceremony and reception/dance if we'd want! Church is important to me, and so is family... so that'd be fun b/c the actual marriage would have happened already- so no pressure! If I'd have a traditional wedding, though, I'd maybe go all out. I've been engaged, and had it be a lot of my wants, which was important to him b/c it was to me... but this time I'd have it be about what WE want. I would definitely want our families to play a huge role in helping. Their support and help would be amazing, and I know we both have good enough families that this would happen! A big family event! With of course all of our friends. We both like to dance and party a little so it'd be a blast! I would also run off to Vegas or fly to a tropical island, no doubts about either! No matter how I get married, though, I want some special vows... something we both say from the heart!
I want... lots of fun times! Vacations, get-togethers, family reunions, parties, etc! Celebrate lots of things!
I want... a deck and room for entertaining. I want to have people over for dinner, for drinks, for Super-Bowl parties, etc!
I want... to throw birthday parties! I want to bake cakes for our birthdays, my kids... and go all out! I want them to feel SO special on this day! I want to plan and decorate and have everyone feel so good about having fun!
I want... to always stay close to my/our families. I want to frequent home for special events, like births, birthdays, family suppers, family reunions, etc. I also want them to come visit and stay a lot on the weekends and come for our parties and functions!
I want... to always be in love and have the feeling that my boyfriend/fiance/husband will never leave me. I want to feel content and know we are partners in life... through good and bad, ups and downs, when its easy or hard.
I want... to have some kids! I'm not sure how many, but I want them! Sometimes I want 2, plus ... sometimes I want 3 (and people think I'm crazy!)...sometimes 4. I also think it'd be a blast to have twins! We'll see, but I know I/we want them. I want my/our kids to have amazing parents, as I know I will be the best mom ever also!
I want... to be an amazing mom!
I want... to have girls nights out on a regular basis! To go have drinks and be silly and talk about stuff that guys hate! I want to talk about guys and in the future our kids... and clothes and romance and work, etc! These are important!
I want... my husband to have lots of friends and never feel bothered when I want to hang out with my girlfriends! He should want to hang out with his friends on a regular basis as well... they should go golfing and get drinks and go to football games without women bugging them!
I want... to have open and honest communication, as well as compromise, at all times. Its important to not let things build up and bother you, and the person I'm with should be able to communicate to me- and I PROMISE I will be on their side! They should talk to me and me to them, and if we don't agree... b/c we won't always!... then we come to a compromise that we both agree on.. no neither one us us feels compromised! :) I want to be able to talk about serious things, dreams, wants, work, life, kids, everything.
I want... to have it be a fall Saturday and I go out to lunch with a friend while I have a pregnant belly... and know my husband is on the couch watching a football game with a beer... and I'll come home and relax in the office on the computer or making some food in the kitchen... then later we'll go out for dinner with our friends.
I want... to go on walks and runs and bike-rides in the summer!
I want... to grill out. Even brats. Turkey cheddar brats with ketchup and mustard and no bun. I'll make potatoes and all sorts of other things. And someday have a CHARCOAL grill- even just a little one! For the taste! And we'll make s'mores too.
I want... to cook lots of food. Pork roast in the crockpot, chicken casserole, chicken and dumplings, lasagna, egg bake, grilled cheese and tomato/chicken noodle soup, spaghetti, tuna casserole and blueberry muffins, etc.
I want... to have days I can spend all alone at "our" house cleaning! Everyone goes away and its just me to do laundry, wash the floors, vacuum, dust, wash the tubs and toilet (I despise that part!), make the beds, etc!
I want... to go to baseball games during the summer! From little league, then our kids, to my brothers, our family, I-Cubs, professional, anything! I love the game and sounds and food and atmosphere!
I want... to go to Iowa Hawkeye football games! Someday to have season tickets and it be a regular Saturday in the fall kinda thing. And, if I wouldnt want to go to all of them... I still want to be part of it... Or I could even tailgate! Just the general aspect of it is so much fun!
I want... to have romantic stuff. Not all the time... and not over-the-top... but a flower every once in a while, or a card or email "just because"... this means the world to me! Just to feel special and wanted.
I want... to have lots of sex. Good sex. Crazy-fun sex; slow, tired sex; lots of kissing sex; I-can't-believe-we-did-that sex; intense sex. I want it all- with the person that I love to do it with... and that loves to do it with me!
I want... holidays full of excitement. I want to spend nights wrapping Christmas gifts... Halloweens dressing up... Easters hiding eggs for the kids... etc.
I want... for "us" to pick out "our" house... and have to fix it up. To paint it, get new furniture, and decorate it!
I want... to be in the house doing some cooking/cleaning/scrapbooking/whatever... while my husband is outside mowing the lawn and dinking around with tools!
I want... to spend lazy nights ordering pizza. Ones where we just want to rent a movie and do nothing!
I want... to be in on conversations with who we WANT and DON'T WANT to do well... for Sunday and Monday pm Fantasy Football!
I want... a new car... And help picking it out! Something that will be perfect... really pretty and something I look hot driving, of course... but with enough room to pick people and a family up!
I want... no doubt about me being "The One".
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
"How many of us are having great sex with people we're ashamed to introduce to our friends?"
To take a quote from Carrie on Sex and the City... Well? How many of us out there are or have actually done this or are doing it?! . Good, bad, a proud moment (or NOTTTT!)... it has happened to a lot of us.
We're all adults... we know this happens. But the question is- SHOULD it matter?! Should it just be that it is either okay, or not okay? I would say that if you're wanting to do it, then its okay. Who cares about what other think! But, is it a double standard that men can do it and feel like its no big deal... but if women do it they are looked at like they should feel bad or ashamed!?
We're all adults... we know this happens. But the question is- SHOULD it matter?! Should it just be that it is either okay, or not okay? I would say that if you're wanting to do it, then its okay. Who cares about what other think! But, is it a double standard that men can do it and feel like its no big deal... but if women do it they are looked at like they should feel bad or ashamed!?
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