What is LOVE?

What is LOVE?!
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?' The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.' Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.' Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.' Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.' Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.' Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.' Danny - age 7

'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss' Emily - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.' Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,' Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.' Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.' Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.' Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.' Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image) Karen - age 7

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.' Mark - age 6

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8

And the final one The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, 'Nothing, I just helped him cry'

Kiss Me!

Kenny Chesney- "Kiss Me, Kiss Me, Kiss Me"

She said you never tell me that you love me anymore
So I can't help but wonder if you do
She said if things don't change you'll see me walk right out that door
Cause I've done everything I know to do
I said I just don't know what it is you want from me
She said I only want us back the way we used to be
Then she said
Kiss me, kiss me, kiss me
Hold me, hold me like you want me
Like you'll never let me go
She said show me, show me
That you really love me
And then tell me cause I really need to know
She said kiss me, kiss me, kiss me
I got down on my knee right there and promised her I'd change
Cause deep inside I knew that she was right
I said I know we've drifted and there's only me to blame
But I don't want to waste another night
Somewhere in the darkness there we found a brand new start
As I took every word she whispered straight to heart
Kiss me, kiss me, kiss me
Hold me, hold me like you want me
Like you'll never let me go
She said show me, show me
That you really love me
And then tell me cause I really need to know
She said kiss me, kiss me, kiss meKiss me......

I Lost It

Kenny Chesney- "I Lost It"

I had a hundred dollar ring in my hand
So weak and tired i could barely stand
From being up all night, prayin' she'd say yes
So with a hopeful heart i hit one knee
With a tear in her eye she looked at me
It was the moment of truth, i was scared to death
My life hung on what that tear meant
Then she smiled at me
And I lost it
No one can make me cry
Make me laugh
Make me smile
Or drive me mad like she does
It's like a curse that is the cure
Better or worse, one thing's for sure
It's real love and I don't know what I'd do
If I lost it

Well the honeymoon ended and life began
Jobs and bills, losing touch with friends
And that apartment got smaller every day
Then one night the walls finally closed in
I came home late, she said where've ya been
You used to call and tell me you're on your way
She said if this is how it's gonna be, then I quit
She walked out the door
I lost it

No one can make me cry
Make me laugh
Make me smile
Or drive me mad like she does
It's like a curse that is the cure
Better or worse, one thing's for sure
It's real love and I don't know what I'd do
If I lost it

I picked myself up off the floor
She walked back through the door
And we made love like it was the first time
No one can make me cry
Make me laugh
Make me smile
Or drive me mad like she does
It's like a curse that is the cure
Better or worse, one thing's for sure
It's real love and I don't know what I'd do
If I lost it
Oh, if I lost it
I don't wanna lose it

Space

"For some people, time apart is good... it makes them realize who they are, what they want, and gives them a second chance at the most incredible love they'll ever have."

Is space in a relationship good? Is it helpful? In a relationship where one person or another needs some more free-time and to not feel "smothered"... does this work?! I have mixed reviews and thoughts on this...

I think YES, it is helpful! It helps one or both parties have more time to think about their life, the other person, and things they may miss or notice without their significant other around. It can be reflection time and time to have for re-connecting with friends or family that we often get out-of-touch with more when we're in a relationship. This time can make it possible for the person wanting the space to realize he can have both a life outside of "her" and a life with her... that it is all possible to want and have! And be successful! Space and time apart a little more also makes the two people miss each other and get a little more excited to see, hang out with, or talk to the other person! A lot more happens in the others' life when you're not around, so there is a lot more to talk about on the phone or in person! I have personally seen all of this... "he" seems less stressed when we are hanging out, and it seems like we are able to talk about and discuss a lot more things! The other benefit, is that you crave each other more... In many different ways that I've talked about... but also in physical ways. You crave their face, touch, holding their hand, kissing them, and being intimate with them. I have personally seen and felt this tremendously as well. When you aren't seeing that person all the time... this physical part comes up a lot more when you are actually with the person! This makes the sex a lot better as well... you want it more, crave them more, and it heats everything up!

Some of the downfalls and why I think NO it is not good or helpful stem from the person not wanting the space. This person can feel hurt, sad, lonely, and disconnected from the other person in their life. You can be worried there is more to it than just wanting space, and constantly questioning and having anxiety over what they're doing, if they're missing you, and how long they're going to need this "more space". I definately believe that it can make the couple feel very disconnected, as they may go from knowing everything about their other half's life to feeling like they know nothing. This, while maybe good for the other person in some sense, is not necessarily good for the person not wanting the space. Another con of having more space, I think, is that it can feel like others (like friends and family) are more important than you!

I think, good or bad, what both parties have to remember is that if its love you can make it work no matter what... I truly believe that. And if it takes having space for it to work out, then so be it. It will be hard, it will be uncomfortable, it may be okay at some times but feel terrible at others.

In my life right now... this is exactly what is happening. Some days I feel okay wtih it... but others, like today... I feel terrible about it. I feel like- why hasn't he called me as much?- doesn't he wonder what I'M up to?- it isn't the way it used to be- is that okay or is it terrible?!-is this space and time helping him and our relationship?- or, what is the point? I am okay with it as long as the end result- sooner or later- is a relationship that is better than the way it was before the "space". Today, though... not fun. I feel hurt. I feel lonely. I feel like he doesn't care. I feel like I am out of the loop of his life. I feel like I am alone in the relationship. Tomorrow, though... is a new day!