Should relationships be all nice and easy and sunshine and flowers? After hearing a recent Taylor Swift (by her and John Rich) song, “The Way I Loved You”, it got me thinking how it is true that some hard relationships are the ones that make you feel like you’re living… and they, in turn, are the good ones. As Taylor Swift said and I agree… we could be in a relationship with a super-nice guy or girl… one that’ll open doors, bring flowers, be nicey-nice and good all the time. He or she does everything right. But you feel nothing. Then there is the guy or girl that you’re in a relationship with that, at times, is messy, complicated, and frustrating. But this one made you feel something.
I’ve been there and I’ve seen others in this. Someone may seem so good on paper, would be overly sweet… but come on- who wants someone that won’t stand up to you? Who won’t disagree or argue with you once in a while? Who isn’t afraid to have an opinion different than yours? This is what promotes bonding and coming together too, believe it or not! I would choose a relationship that, as I’ve been told (okay, not personally, but I’ve read!!!!) by many relationship psychologists (Dr Phil, Oprah magazine, etc), has at least 75% goodness. The other 25% of the person may not be “perfect”… but that’s enduring… that takes time and work but makes it worthwhile!!! Opposites attract and can balance each other out in that 25% too! (I’ll find my article from “O” magazine and give everyone her quote!)
People experience discord in most relationships at some point. In such cases, relationships sometimes can be stressful and difficult to manage during these times. BUT... Good and healthy relationships are created when people realize that differences make people and life interesting!
Quotes:
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. ~Emily Kimbrough
Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. ~Dinah Shore
Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. ~Author Unknown
I’ve been there and I’ve seen others in this. Someone may seem so good on paper, would be overly sweet… but come on- who wants someone that won’t stand up to you? Who won’t disagree or argue with you once in a while? Who isn’t afraid to have an opinion different than yours? This is what promotes bonding and coming together too, believe it or not! I would choose a relationship that, as I’ve been told (okay, not personally, but I’ve read!!!!) by many relationship psychologists (Dr Phil, Oprah magazine, etc), has at least 75% goodness. The other 25% of the person may not be “perfect”… but that’s enduring… that takes time and work but makes it worthwhile!!! Opposites attract and can balance each other out in that 25% too! (I’ll find my article from “O” magazine and give everyone her quote!)
People experience discord in most relationships at some point. In such cases, relationships sometimes can be stressful and difficult to manage during these times. BUT... Good and healthy relationships are created when people realize that differences make people and life interesting!
Quotes:
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. ~Emily Kimbrough
Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. ~Dinah Shore
Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. ~Author Unknown
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. ~Rainer Maria Rilke
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