Men Relying

"Many men believe that relying on other people, especially emotionally, is a sign of weakness; but until a man can get honest about the fact that he has needs, and what they are, it will be very difficult for him to be intimate with you."

Hmm, this sounds familiar to me. Not in a good or bad way, but in a true way. I think this is definitely very true. It is a quote from Dr Phil from his book, 'Love Smart'. I think a lot of people have a hard time admitting they would rely on someone for somethings in life. I think this is especially true with men, and I've seen it. They sometimes think because they've always done it alone, it can or should be done that way forever. Its hard to admit its nice to have someone to HELP you! Pride is at stake, change is at stake, and the fear of the unknown! So, men, just talk to your girl about this! All SHE probably wants is to feel she can and us helping! It is and will be win-win!

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The One

I promised to find the quote section from my Oprah magazine on relationships and the 75% thing, so here it is!
Ken Page, founder of the dating workshop Deeper Dating says... "Marrying Mr. or Ms. Almost The One is perfectly admissible. If someone is your match in 75 to 85 percent of the things that are important to you- values, character strengths, how he or she treats other people, emotion fitness- that's not settling. But its up to you to infuse 'good enough' with energy and passion so that it becomes fantastic. And chemistry counts; you need to be attracted to each other."

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Differences

From The Notebook, love this quote about a relationship!

"They didn't agree on much. In fact, they rarely agreed on anything. They fought all the time. And, they challenged each other every day. But despite their differences, they had one impetant thing in common: they were crazy about each other."

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Bad mood!

If you or someone you know is in a bad mood... Should you make any decisions? No, probably not. I was in a terrible mood a few days ago at work and just wanted to quit and walk away. I left there and went back the next day glad I hadn't done something so quickly! The problem is that I think some people do this sometimes, a lot! Bad moods for a minute, hour, day, whatever... Shouldn't be left to hardly even talk to someone, cuz you cannot take what you say back! Remember to think before you say things, especially those you might regret! Being in a bad mood happens to all of us, just don't let it flood you with regret afterwards!

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FuNnY fAcTs!

The following are some funny/interesting relationship facts I saw recently on this great website! Enjoy!
http://www.exepertloveadvice.com/love-trivia-facts-marriage-romance.html

The matrimonial pollsters contend their studies indicate the man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than does the fellow who doesn't do that thing. Husbands who exercise the rituals of affection tend to be more painstaking, more stable, more methodical, thus higher earners, it's believed.

Most recent research indicates just about 9,000 romantic couples each year take out marriage licenses, then fail to use them.

* 2 out of 5 have married their first love. * Only 4% asked the parents' approval for their bride's hand. * 1 in 5 men proposed on his knees* 6% propose over the phone. (And what percent said yes?)

Ladies, romance statisticians have calculated that the odds run 70 to one that you won't marry any of the boys in the office where you work. About 100 to one you won't marry your boss, and 1700 to one that you won't marry your doctor.

In a study respondents mentioned three qualities which they considered essential for happy, long-lasting relationships. Affection (touching, holding, stroking) was named most important by the majority, second only to communication. Sex, on the other hand, which they separated from affection, was relegated to eighth position.

Marital quarrels hit their peak in July. If you've kept notes on your spouse's temper-or yours-they'll confirm it. July is also tops for riots, criminal violence and hasty legislation. Oppressive heat and consequent loss of temper control are the causes.

I know the photo isn't a "real" couple- but, hey... I like cheerleading and it WOULD be a funny couple!!! haha; from this site... http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-117.htm

Differences

Should relationships be all nice and easy and sunshine and flowers? After hearing a recent Taylor Swift (by her and John Rich) song, “The Way I Loved You”, it got me thinking how it is true that some hard relationships are the ones that make you feel like you’re living… and they, in turn, are the good ones. As Taylor Swift said and I agree… we could be in a relationship with a super-nice guy or girl… one that’ll open doors, bring flowers, be nicey-nice and good all the time. He or she does everything right. But you feel nothing. Then there is the guy or girl that you’re in a relationship with that, at times, is messy, complicated, and frustrating. But this one made you feel something.

I’ve been there and I’ve seen others in this. Someone may seem so good on paper, would be overly sweet… but come on- who wants someone that won’t stand up to you? Who won’t disagree or argue with you once in a while? Who isn’t afraid to have an opinion different than yours? This is what promotes bonding and coming together too, believe it or not! I would choose a relationship that, as I’ve been told (okay, not personally, but I’ve read!!!!) by many relationship psychologists (Dr Phil, Oprah magazine, etc), has at least 75% goodness. The other 25% of the person may not be “perfect”… but that’s enduring… that takes time and work but makes it worthwhile!!! Opposites attract and can balance each other out in that 25% too! (I’ll find my article from “O” magazine and give everyone her quote!)

People experience discord in most relationships at some point. In such cases, relationships sometimes can be stressful and difficult to manage during these times. BUT... Good and healthy relationships are created when people realize that differences make people and life interesting!

Quotes:
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand. ~Emily Kimbrough

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. ~Dinah Shore

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. ~Author Unknown

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. ~Rainer Maria Rilke

Give up?

Sometimes I worry that if I have a bad day, hour, minute, conversation, or action... That the person or any people I love or care about will just BOOM give up on me! Case in point, last night I got upset about something. I planned a little something special, so when the possible plans didn't happen, even though I wasn't banking on it... I was let down cuz I looked cute and was going to do something special! Anyway, I let my emotions get the best of me and got mad. I had felt slightly pushed to the side or disrespected and, while I didn't plan my night around any plans, of course I would rather be doing that fun 'something' than be with the other people or doing whatever else I was going to do. Anyway. I acted irrational for about 30 minutes. I let myself act off of my emotions. Then, although it turned out to be a good, fun end of the night later on!... I had the constant worry all today that me acting that silly way for that half hour would push someone away from me forever, think negatively about me or us, and give up.

Should I think like this? No. No one that's anyone would give up on someone they love, well, ever. But, no one especially would when they're usually so good. I'm 90% of the time great! I know I am caring, sweet, helpful, have good values, and have my head on straight! So the occasional time I don't... Well, that's me. Take it or leave it I'm not perfect. But the thing I have going is I can admit that I'm not perfect. Sometimes I do dumb stuff. I overreact. I act crazy, for lack of better word. But AM I crazy? Nope! Some people cannot admit they do things wrong... I can. I do and I know it.

So, if you're at all like me... I guess what you have to remember is you'll have bad moments. Everyone does. As long as the majority of the time, like me, you're a great person... Anyone that loves you and has values and is a great person themselves would never give up.
(just a note... I overanalyze and stress a lot! I get myself worked up and freak out for nothing sometimes! I'm workin on it, ha!)
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Happy about myself!

You know those days where you just feel productive, content, happy about who you are as a person? Well, you know... I've had a lot of time recently, and in particular over my Thanksgiving weekend, to think about myself, my relationship, other people, their relationships, life, how everything works, etc. And, ya know what? I feel pretty good about myself as a person! No, scratch that, not just pretty good... I do feel very good! I think I am a great person... I have my head on straight... I am honest with people... I have good morals and values... I am extremely caring... I love... I just feel happy that I can do good things!

(This picture on here just makes me FEEL happy too! :)) I could sure use a place like that, ahhh!