Don't judge a book, person, or relationship by its COVER!

So… I recently spoke to a friend about my relationship, her relationship, another friend about hers, and yet another about hers. What do they all have in common? Every single one is different. AND, on top of that… what some people don’t understand, is the only expert on the relationship is the people that are in it. They’re living it. Breathing it. Tasting it. IN IT…. every…single…day. So, while a friend can give good advice or help with things that worked for him and her… they are by no means an expert on your relationship. This is my biggest pet peeve… who gives them the right to say if they think you should or shouldn’t be together, or to point out problems that have never been problems for the two of you! Just because those two may have some specific relationship issue or problem, doesn’t mean that the second it comes up in yours, that it’s a problem. The two of you may totally do things differently than the two of them. Who’s to say one way is right and one way is wrong?! This makes me extremely mad. An example… a friend of mine called me a few weeks ago to tell me about her night and consequent next day. Well, her boyfriend drank too much the night before and couldn’t wake up to go with her somewhere the next day that they had planned. Now, that doesn’t sound too good, huh? She doesn’t think so, and was not happy with him. BUT, let me tell you… he is a great guy. He treats her good, is there for her, cares for her, and they love each other. She was halfway embarrassed and felt like she had to stand up for him to explain to me. She didn’t! My feelings on people in relationships are that if they are with someone that makes them happy, living the life they want to live, who am I to tell them that’s not good or the way it should be? Their way sure may be different than mine, but that doesn’t make it wrong!!! Jon and I, in 3 years, have had plenty of ups and downs. But things that may not make one of us or us together mad, one of my friends thought was just terrible. We’ve never really argued about money, and that’s what the topic brought up was about. That made it clear to me that her and her significant other DO argue about money, so it must’ve been a sore subject and something she thought was bad if she heard us mention a funny difference about it! Him and I laughed about it the next day when we heard it. Another thing is, I don’t think my relationship was been or has been perfect. BUT, no one’s is! My point is that each person and each couple have issues that mean more or less to them than others, and to someone else those may be the exact opposite (means nothing to you, means the world to them). As long as both parties treat each other well and are happy, who cares?!?! It’s not your business! Live your own life and if you don’t like what the other person (your friend) does, or disagree about who she is with. REMEMBER- you don’t have to like it. You’re not her. You’re not the one dating or married to who she is. If you are truly her/his friend or family and truly love her/him, all you can do is get along, be supportive, and be there if there are problems (not to say you told them so!) Has anyone had experience with this? Does it annoy you? Have you ever had someone tell you these things? I DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT THINK IT IS RIGHT FOR ANYONE TO JUDGE A RELATIONSHIP THAT THEY ARE NOT IN!!!!