Thankful!

This Thanksgiving, I'm a little sad, I'm not gonna lie... I want to be spending it with my love, and thats not happening, so its a bit of a downer. BUT, I am thankful for a lot of things! (From an email forward I received that I LOVED!!!)
I AM THANKFUL:
FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME, AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE. (OK, I dont have a wife, but you get the point!!!)

FOR THE HUSBAND WHO IS ON THE SOFA BEING A COUCH POTATO, BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS. (Ok, I dont have a husband either, but I have a kinda somethin sometimes... and would be thankful for it!)

FOR THE TEENAGER WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME, NOT ON THE STREETS. (Someday I will!)

FOR THE TAXES I PAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM EMPLOYED .

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE.

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING, WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING, AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME . (again, someday!)

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT BECAUSE IT MEANS WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH.

FOR THE PARKING SPOT I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION .

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM WARM. (altho I still prefer turning it up @ others' houses! ;) jk)

FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

AND FINALLY, FOR TOO MUCH E-MAIL BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE THINKING OF ME.

Live well, Laugh often, & Love with all of your heart!

And, I'm so thankful for those I love, my health, being able to help and be there for people, and having people and times to make me smile!

Stress... and RELIEF!

Stress relievers... (some funny… all true):

· Workout
· Hold hands w/your loved one
· Have a drink
· Have sex
· Scream or yell for a few minutes (not AT someone, but to vent)
· Listen to music
· Get a massage
· Drive around
· Do something about the problem if possible- take control

Many more, I’m sure…but on those days when work (for me today- I could scream!), kids, family, money, or anything else is stressing you out… do one of these. Or all of them. I’m for sure going to do the majority of them… yes, not just one, today is one of those days for ALL!! AH! All of them are a must… What stresses you out? What do you do to fix it? Do you take it out on someone you love? Go to them for help? Internalize it? Remember…. They love you, they want to help! Let them help, but don’t take it out on them… that’ll just double yours and their stress! Relax…. Things could be much worse. (Just a note… I’m saying this for myself today… so far at work its “one of those days”…I’ve got a plan though, and am taking control to make it better! And the other things will help ease it as well!) One day at a time (yes, there was a time I hated that saying)… and tomorrow is a new day and can be better!

Is the grass greener?

So in thinking about the classic quote, "The grass is always greener on the other side", I wondered about its validity. In the past year I've had life go as far down as its ever been for me. It was terrible... I thought I'd forever lost the people that I had had in it for over 2 years @ the time. The person and family I thought was becoming mine slowly slipped away. It was the worst thing ever. And I still don't understand how acceptance to some people doesn't seem to work both ways, but that's besides the point. During this time, HE thought the grass was greener. Someone else was gonna make it different, make life better, feel the same except better. Well, that wasn't true. The hands don't fit the same, lips touch the same, body feel the same, voice speak the same words and laugh at the same things. That's the true treasure... And hard to come by. Sometimes, like what happened then, you want what you had back because you realized you were dumb for letting it go. Well, things turned around during that time and I thought it was a fresh start... Which in many ways it definitely was or has been. Now this subject came up again for me recently in a way, thinking about the future. Then it did with my good friend today. She had been with her guy for almost 5 years, and the difference was that he started to treat her bad. He talked down, acted a little inconsiderate, and didn't seem to have the same life goals and wants as she did anymore. Their sex life was also almost nonexistent and not too great when it did happen. This to me is a huge difference then mine ever was, and a definite reason to consider the other side. Either way won't be perfect, but everyone should be with someone where there's chemistry, mutual respect, common morals, dreams,and goals for the future. For me... Who knows if it is greener on the other side?


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Happy

Oh happy day.... you know what I love? Feeling needed. Feeling wanted. Feeling appreciated. Feeling loved. But who doesn't?! Have a happy day!!! :)

Don't judge a book, person, or relationship by its COVER!

So… I recently spoke to a friend about my relationship, her relationship, another friend about hers, and yet another about hers. What do they all have in common? Every single one is different. AND, on top of that… what some people don’t understand, is the only expert on the relationship is the people that are in it. They’re living it. Breathing it. Tasting it. IN IT…. every…single…day. So, while a friend can give good advice or help with things that worked for him and her… they are by no means an expert on your relationship. This is my biggest pet peeve… who gives them the right to say if they think you should or shouldn’t be together, or to point out problems that have never been problems for the two of you! Just because those two may have some specific relationship issue or problem, doesn’t mean that the second it comes up in yours, that it’s a problem. The two of you may totally do things differently than the two of them. Who’s to say one way is right and one way is wrong?! This makes me extremely mad. An example… a friend of mine called me a few weeks ago to tell me about her night and consequent next day. Well, her boyfriend drank too much the night before and couldn’t wake up to go with her somewhere the next day that they had planned. Now, that doesn’t sound too good, huh? She doesn’t think so, and was not happy with him. BUT, let me tell you… he is a great guy. He treats her good, is there for her, cares for her, and they love each other. She was halfway embarrassed and felt like she had to stand up for him to explain to me. She didn’t! My feelings on people in relationships are that if they are with someone that makes them happy, living the life they want to live, who am I to tell them that’s not good or the way it should be? Their way sure may be different than mine, but that doesn’t make it wrong!!! Jon and I, in 3 years, have had plenty of ups and downs. But things that may not make one of us or us together mad, one of my friends thought was just terrible. We’ve never really argued about money, and that’s what the topic brought up was about. That made it clear to me that her and her significant other DO argue about money, so it must’ve been a sore subject and something she thought was bad if she heard us mention a funny difference about it! Him and I laughed about it the next day when we heard it. Another thing is, I don’t think my relationship was been or has been perfect. BUT, no one’s is! My point is that each person and each couple have issues that mean more or less to them than others, and to someone else those may be the exact opposite (means nothing to you, means the world to them). As long as both parties treat each other well and are happy, who cares?!?! It’s not your business! Live your own life and if you don’t like what the other person (your friend) does, or disagree about who she is with. REMEMBER- you don’t have to like it. You’re not her. You’re not the one dating or married to who she is. If you are truly her/his friend or family and truly love her/him, all you can do is get along, be supportive, and be there if there are problems (not to say you told them so!) Has anyone had experience with this? Does it annoy you? Have you ever had someone tell you these things? I DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT THINK IT IS RIGHT FOR ANYONE TO JUDGE A RELATIONSHIP THAT THEY ARE NOT IN!!!!

Have a SUCCESSFUL Relationship!

SUCCESSFUL Relationships- Long Term!
We all know relationships, especially good ones, take a lot of hard work. They take dedication and playing a two-way game. Here are some musts for having a good one. And who doesn't want this in life?!

· Chemistry (actual chemicals in both bodies that cause us to react in certain ways) (pheromones, oxyyocin, endorphins- making you miss them when they’re away, love to be in the same room w/them, etc)
· Respect- admire the other for their values, morals, and conduct
· Attention-give her/him flowers or something special, call just to say you love them, help them with things around the house;(FYI women want to feel cared for a loved and cherished- not just when you want to have sex or need something!
· Honesty- be truthful about whereabouts, thoughts, feelings
· Opening yourself- have passion, but when it starts to fade some days- do something else to be vulnerable to them
· Selflessness- considerations for your partners feelings and compromise
· Communication- be able to express yourself and listen to the other person.
· Appearance- take care of yourself like you did @ the beginning; dress up not just for special occasions
· Comfort- makes it lasting; when you can share in long-term involvement, overcome obstacles- you can’t get that with just anyone!
· Spend time apart- do things with the girls/guys once a week/month…
· Spend time with other couples- invite them over for dinner that you and yours cook; if you have kids all get together!
· Have date night once a week- reconnect, focus only on each other- bond!
· Appreciation- you get busy and used to each other and this goes right out the window; think of something daily your partner does and thank them for it, it’ll help you weather storms!
· Cuddle!
· Tell each other really personal things…. You’ll be able to read each other’s minds and finish each other’s sentences!

Playstation\XBox vs WII

So I heard something today that got me thinking about life, growing up, money, etc. A friend of mine said he was thinking about buying his child either a Playstation or an X Box for Christmas. Well, I knew he already had a WII that rarely got used...so, thinking I was helpful...I said something to the effect of, 'oh, you could always sell the WII'... Meaning then he would have the money for the game thing he wanted, since the other one didn't get used. I thought that's what I grew up with so to me that seemed logical. I got home now and it suddenly dawned on me that some people don't have to give up one to have another. So me thinking I was helpful may actually have been annoying, like I didn't think 2 were necessary! Duh Heidi! I know it could have been perceived that way, which was meant by me as a way to have money to buy it! It took 6 hours for me to realize that some people can afford to buy and have both! Anyway. This is just another example of how you grow up affecting the things you say or do as an adult. All I would have needed was for my friend to say, oh, sell it to have the money? No I have the money! Lol. I knew he does in the 1st place that's why its so funny to me. But, sometimes it takes someone saying it to dawn on ya! Oh well. Kind of a funny story now, but tells the moral, which is... Don't assume what someone says is what they mean! Communicate! Ask them if you don't understand why they would need to sell their WII! Ha. The other moral? I think if you CAN have both a Playstation or X Box AND a WII, do it!! Most people want better for their kids than they had... So, why not?! :)


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With You!

Hey, oh
Let me tell you no
Oh baby
Trying to decide, trying to decide
If I, really want to go out tonight (Besides girls' night like, once a week or month- NOT too fun!)
I never used to go out, without you (And its not quite so fun... but nothing else to do!)
I'm not sure I remember how to (Feel like you're just going out to meet guys- hit on ya nonstop)
I'm gonna be, gonna be late
But, all my girls gonna have to wait (And they get mad @ me cuz I take forever sometimes)
Cause, I don't know if I like my outfit
I tried everything in my closet (What you wore w/him is not always same as wearing w/o him)
Nothing feels right when
I'm not with you (Feels like I'm someone I'm not, like a single Sex and The City woman)
Sick of this dress and these Jimmy Choos (Hate dressin up to feel like I must impress when out)
Taking them off, cause I feel a fool
Trying to dress up, when I'm missing you
I'ma step out of this lingerie (Cuz is someone else gonna see it?!?! ha)
Curl up in a ball with something Hanes
In that I lay, with nothing but, your T-Shirt on
Oh, with nothing but, your T-Shirt on
Hey, gotta be strong, gotta be strong (I AM!!!)
But, I'm really hurting now that your gone (When we're doin our own thing for the night-space)
I thought maybe I'd do some shopping (Nope...want YOU to see the outfits!) :) (fashion show)
But, I didn't get pass the door and
Now I don't know, now I don't know
If I'm ever gonna let you go
And I couldn't even leave my apartment (But I must cuz I'd drive myself crazy! hence goin out)
I'm stripped down, torn up about it
Nothing feels right when I'm not with you (SO TRUE- my other half is missing!)
Sick of this dress and these Jimmy Choos
Taking them off, cause I feel a fool
Trying to dress up when I'm missing you (And wonderin if you'd like me outfit, think I look hot!)
I'ma step out of this lingerie (And its sexy, let me tell YOU!)
Curl up in a ball and something Hanes (Watchin a movie I don't wanna see w/o you)
In that I lay, with nothing with your T-Shirt on
Oh, with nothing but, your T-Shirt on
Trying to decide, trying to decide (Peer pressure is a biotch)
If I really want to go out tonight
I couldn't even leave my apartment
I'm stripped down, torn up about it
Nothing feels right when I'm not with you
Sick of this dress and these Jimmy Choos (Wish I had Jimmy Choos, but we'll pretend)
Taking them off, cause I feel a fool (Trying to look good for myself?)
Trying to dress up when I'm missing you (Feel like I'm faking! Trying to look good for others?)
I'ma step out of this lingerie
Curl up in a ball and something Hanes
In bed I lay
Hey, hey
Nothing feels right when I'm not with you (Does it when you're not w/me?! I but NOT!)
Sick of this dress and these Jimmy Choos
Taking them off, cause I feel a fool
Trying to dress up when I'm missing you
I'ma step out of this lingerie
Curl up in a ball and something Hanes
In bed I lay, with nothing with your T-Shirt on
Oh, with nothing but, your T-Shirt on
Let me tell you know
With nothing but, your T-Shirt on (Then I'll come over and see you or you come see me!)

So true!

Without somebody nothin aint worth a dime. Livin on love.

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Sperm donor vs. DAD!!!

What makes a good father? I’ve talked about being a mom, step-mom, families… but not just completely about what it takes to be a good dad and what women (or at least I) want in the qualities of a good father! I read a quote that’s totally true… women don’t just want a sperm donor!!! J But, in saying that… WHY do some men, besides it just being their personalities, think it’s okay to just get the woman pregnant and that’s their only job. Like leaving the child raising solely to the mom is right, good, or beneficial for anyone? Most women, at least the ones I know, including me, want to be with someone that would be a great dad. Anyone guys out there can father a child… but it makes it who they are to be a good DAD! Agree? Disagree? Most women want what’s best for their children or step-children, and that means having a partner in crime to raise the kids! Two heads and hearts are better than one! So for all you dads out there…be a good one!!! I was blessed to have a great dad… one that would do things with me, help me, discipline me (I hated that at the time!), ask me about my day, and love me. He would do anything for me. They say that girls want to marry men that are like their fathers… and I want to marry a guy that’s the same, a great dad to his kids (along with a great husband to his wife!).

What qualities does a great dad possess? Here’s a few…
· Have fun with them! Smile and be friendly.
· Discipline along with the mother… make parenting a partnership so the child has a solid front of support
· You’re a provider… in many ways, not only financially, but emotionally
· Say “I love you” and “I’m proud of you”… affection and warmth
· Be a supportive teacher through what you do and say. Kids will not grow up and automatically make the right decisions and know right from wrong- they need to be taught! You will make mistakes, and so will they… just make sure that you or they are learning from the mistakes and not making them over and over!
· Make traditions with your child solely, and as your family as a whole
· Respect your children’s mother. Mutual respect, no matter if married or not, will show you can lead by example. Children will see this and it will greatly influence the way they will be in a relationship and as a parent
· Set achievable goals for them
· Make the time and commit the energy to learn the skills you will need to be a caring, empathetic, and competent dad. Remember you and your wife/the mom are teaching each other along the way too, and the learning never ends! Kids are wonderful teachers!
· Read to your children! Kids learn best by learning and doing… they will grow up this day and promote a lifetime of personal and career growth
· Eat together as a family. This will add structure to a busy day and offers a chance for listening, advice, and togetherness! (I, by the way, LOVE this part of a day!!!! J- it’s my favorite!)

If you are a dad and already possess these qualities… congratulations…. You’re amazing! You have an unbelievable amount of responsibility and you should be so proud! Good job. Your child will greatly benefit and thank you one day!

Remember: Being a parent is one of the most rewarding yet challenging jobs you can have. No one is born being a natural mom or dad; these skills are learned, and some take more time than others!

Darius Rucker... good lyrics!

Darius Rucker, who has my new favorite CD, titled “Learn to Live”, has some amazing songs with amazing lyrics that I love! I copied some lyrics’ excerpts that I like, seem meaningful to me- something that I either feel I would say… want to hear said to me… think about the future… want in my life!

Baby I apologize

I never meant to make you cry

But there ain’t no doubt, we can work it out yeah

Cuz I’m gonna be around
Don’t worry baby

I ain’t no maybe

Rain or Shine

This Love of mine is for you

Let my arms remind you

I’ll always be beside you

Holdin’ on until this ride is through

So away we go, down that forever road

Baby as our lives unfold

There’s no telling where we’ll go

But as far as I can see, it’ll be you and me

Just the way it’s supposed to be

It ain’t gonna be easy

We’ll both make big mistakes

But if you love me, trust me

We’ve got what it takes

Now…

Don't think I don't have regrets

Don't think it don't get to me

You gotta live to learn

You gotta crash and burn

You gotta make some stances

And take some chances

You gotta live and love
And take all life has to give

You gotta live and learn

So you can learn to live

I did some things that i wasn't really proud of

Sometimes life just got the best of me

I found me a woman who loves me just for me

All those mistakes I thought that I was making

Led me right here to you sittin' on my knee

Why do we make our mistakes, and constantly blame one another?

What can I do while I'm here to make someone's life better?

Don’t move

Baby Don’t move

I just want to take this all in

The moonlight dancing off your skin

Our time. Lets take our time

I just want to look in your eyes and catch our breath

Cuz I just got this feeling

The thought of forever

What if this was that moment

That chance worth taking

History in the making

Cause I've got a roof over my head,

the woman I love laying in my bed

And it's alright, alright

I've got shoes under my feet

Forever in her eyes staring back at me

And it's alright, alright

And I've got all I need

And it's alright by me

It may be a simple life, but that's okay

If you ask me baby, I think I've got it made

When I lay down at night I thank the Lord above

For giving me everything I ever could dream of

His wife gives him a kiss and says

It gonna be OK
It won’t be like this for long

This phase is gonna fly by

If you can just hold on

It won’t be like this for long
Yeah this phase is gonna fly by

Please Lord, I'm begging you

Don't let me go like this

There's so much left that I wanna do

So much I don't wanna miss

I’m gonna work like I don’t need the money

I’m gonna laugh like I’m not afraid to cry

I’m gonna dance like nobody’s watchin’

I’m gonna love while I still got the time

Lovin’ me hasn’t been easy on you

I don’t know why, but I know you still do

No more excuses and no more me doing things wrong

Life is too short, baby, I’ve wasted ours for too long

And baby from now on...

If you're a man like me who's good at leaving

if you like your space and you love your freedom

Dont see yourself as ever settlin down

or your whole world being tossed around

Be wary of a woman

A woman so fine

Don’t wanna change you

loves u just right

Makes u feel like a man inside

Sometimes she’ll make you cry

Till you don’t know what your doin

You’re out of control

Forget about leavin your heart won’t go

If don’t like that u better run and hide

And be wary of a woman like mine
She’ll make you laugh when you feel like cryin

make you wanna live when u feel like dying

So if u like living in the dark

Just walk away you’re gonna lose your heart

Be wary of a woman

A woman so fine

Don’t wanna change you

Loves u just right
Makes u feel like a man inside

Turn HIM on!

10 ways to turn on the man… in bed!!!:
These are just a few ideas…I’ve got a few more up my sleeve, but we’ll save those for a later time! ;)
1. Talk dirty (kinky!- moan, say his name, talk about what you like)
2. Tell each other or write down fantasies
3. Do it in the shower
4. Be submissive
5. Use toys/handcuffs/scarfs
6. Tatoo- on “those parts”… or a “tramp stamp” on your back
7. Have quickies
8. Dress up
9. Pretend you’re someone else or with someone else and act out the parts
10. Go on your lunch break to the mall and venture into the family restroom or dressing room
11. Take dirty pictures during the day to send to him
12. Text or email what you want to do to him later… and what you want him to do to you
13. Show him how you can touch yourself
14. Strip for him… and don’t let him touch you right away
15. Lay him down or have him stand above you and you lick…

What are some that YOU like to use?

Wow

According to The National Marriage Repurt at Rutgers University, the number one reason men don't commit is that they know they can get sex without getting married.
Wow... If that's not enough to about make ya sick. Who even wants to be with a guy that only cares about or wants that? Ick. And why is it so hard for men to commit? If the possible girl isn't great all around, then I can see it. But, come on, figure it out guys... Which girls LOVE to go all the time, be with their single friends, party, get male attention?! Then don't pick those! And don't some guys, unlike this statistic, want more out of life then just sex?! You can have great sex and be married or engaged or in a serious relationship too! Some of us don't change like others!

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Pizza

"Love isn't the pizza guy, it doesn't deliver."
How true!!

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About ME!

Who is Heidi Lynnski?!

I’m a girly girl… born in Oakland, CA in 1984on a Navy base to my parents, Brian and Nancy, then grew up (for the most part) in Bancroft, IA. I have 2 younger brothers, Griffin and Chase. I graduated from North Kossuth High School in 2003, then attended Briar Cliff University in Sioux City, IA, where I got my Bachelor’s degree (double major) in Human Resource Management and Business in May 2006. While attending my last year, I met the person I had once considered the “love of my life” for over 3 years. Upon graduating, I moved to Ankeny, IA (Des Moines Metro), where “he”- Jon, lived with his son, Jackson, and I took up residence. I immediately started working towards my Masters degree in Business, and in August 2007, I finished my MBA from Amberton University! I started working for Iowa Home Care in 2006 as well, and was employed there as the Patient Care Coordinator Team Lead until August 2009. Jon and I got engaged in February 2007, but had decided that then was not the right timing for marriage for us, and then broke up for good last year! I met the true "love of my life", my boyfriend, Aaron, about 2 1/2 years ago through mutual friends. We re-connected last Winter 2009, and have been together since. We make each other laugh, smile, and...we've always said it just seems "easy" together. We moved and now currently live together in our home in southwest Missouri! Only God knows what the future holds!

I love pink. I love big diamonds. I love cheese- yes, big blocks of it. I love shrimp scampi. I love high heels. I love sexy lingerie. I like country music, feel-good music, and hip-hop to jam to! I like to dance. I’m silly. I laugh really hard at my own jokes, even when they’re not all that funny. I like to golf and I’m actually surprisingly a natural at it! I like to read romance novels and fun magazines. I love The View, Ellen, Oprah, and Dr Phil! I hate snow. I love baseball. I love the fall and summer weather. Life has slowly taught me to be a kinder, more accepting, better person. I get worked up too easily sometimes, but I’m working on it. I hate pain. I get migraines, and I hate them. I love to cook for people that love to eat what I make. I’m not perfect, I make mistakes. Sometimes I’m out of control and wild… I can definitely be hard to handle. But, it’s because I care too much. I love too much. I’m innocent and sweet at times, but naive at others. I know I’ll be the best wife and mom in the world. I like to be romanticized. I love peonies, minus the ants. I love Sex and The City. To win my heart… be sweet to me, take care of me- not because I need it- cuz I don’t- but because you want to eliminate some “stuff” for me; be my partner, make me laugh, and treat me with respect… I’m an extremely sexual person, I like to have sex and I like to feel sexy… I can be naughty. I like to feel needed, wanted, and loved. I’m grouchy some mornings… I do Starbucks (triple venti skinny vanilla latte, extra hot!), omelet’s (Denver, no ham, add extra crisp bacon please!), and some warm weather, and I’ll be a morning person. I love weddings. I like to go on walks and house-hunt. I believe in discipline. I love my family and friends tremendously, and I’m always here for them. I love Mexican cheese dip. I like pepperoni pizza with extra cheese… amongst others. I’m not a picky eater. I like alcohol- wine, beer, margaritas, anything! I like to ask funny, personal questions. I’m not as shy as I seem. I cry too easily sometimes, but I’ll blame it on being a woman! I don’t respect people that are disrespectful, negative, or untrustworthy. Once you get my love, I’d do anything for you and wouldn’t go anywhere. I’m far stronger than I even know!

"I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle... but if you can't handle me at my worst... then you don't deserve me at my best."-- Marilyn Monroe

I believe in pink, I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles -- Audrey Hepburn

Lifehouse- Whatever It Takes

So, since this is the title of my blog... I figured it was only fitting to post the lyrics for the inspiration of the title... Lifehouses' "Whatever It Takes'. ENJOY!

A strangled smile fell from your face
It kills me that I hurt you this way
The worst part is that I didn't even know
Now there's a million reasons for you to go
But if you can find a reason to stay
I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down
And if you give me a chance
Believe that I can change
I'll keep us together whatever it takes
She said "If we're gonna make this work
You gotta let me inside even though it hurts
Don't hide the broken parts that I need to see"
She said "Like it or not it's the way it's gotta be
You gotta love yourself if you can ever love me"
I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down
And if you give me a chance
And give me a break
I'll keep us together,
I know you deserve much better
But remember the time
I told you the way that I felt
That I'd be lost without you and never find myself
Let's hold onto each other above everything else
Start over, start over
I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know I've let you down
And if you give me a chance and believe that I can change
I'll keep us together whatever it takes

What is LOVE?

What is LOVE?!
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?' The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.' Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.' Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.' Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.' Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.' Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.' Danny - age 7

'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss' Emily - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.' Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,' Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.' Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.' Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.' Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.' Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image) Karen - age 7

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.' Mark - age 6

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8

And the final one The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, 'Nothing, I just helped him cry'

Randoms

Who likes randoms? When I refer to a ‘random’ I mean… a person you casually know, in one way or another. Let me give you an example… “some random was hitting on my last night”. Okay, now that we have that clear… who likes randoms? There are so many double standards and cliché things that go along with this. Do guys LOVE randoms? Talking to them, trying to pick them up, sleeping with them? Some say that all guys do when they go out (to a bar) at night is try to pick up a girl to take home. Some say they don’t ever do that. I would say that the truth is somewhere in between. Now, me being who I am… that’s enough to make me about want to vomit. BUT, some girls know this and willingly go along with it when they’re out. Some think it’s normal, cool, good, flattering, etc. ICK!!! But, there is also the other side… the girls that go out looking for randoms, talking to them, flirting with them, maybe taking them home. Does it appeal to more people than not? Should it appeal to more? Are relationships too much work that it’s just easier to do this? Does it make some feel more fulfilled than a relationship does? They don’t have to ‘worry’ about the pressures of a relationship… just in and out with one after another? Does it appeal to you?! Should it appeal to me? Does it make your or would it make my life easier, less stressful to have to worry about another… just do your own thing, and in THAT way too?! Now, I’m not into that… but should I be? Should girls? Or just okay for guys? For nobody? For everybody? Hmmm…

Babies

So... Having a baby, having kids... What does this mean to you? Does it mean something different to each person? Different to moms compared to dads, dads compared to moms? I think to each person it does! Some take it as no big deal, some its the biggest deal ever! I would be @ the second half of that statement! But, I do think people experience emotions and all that comes along with it differently. I would be in awe, crying, laughing, and in love all @ the same time! And feeling more connected to the daddy then ever before too! I would be a mess, but a GREAT mess, in a good way!

Does it bring the parents closer? What if there are other kids already, does it bring them closer as a family? I think the answer to both has got to be yes! As the parents, you now have a joint common goal, besides yourselves. As a family, you now have those brother and sister relationships that were never there before as well! Will there be hard times for the parents? Disagreements over parenting styles? How to raise them? Jealousy from the other child? Stressful times! YES to all! But, in both, you are joining all together and forming a life long bond from that child! You'll both or all have the same goal- to make that child and yourselves and your family have a happy life! So as long as you remember that you can work together to make it great!

I just got to thinking about it today, it just made me think how truly special being pregnant, child birth, and having a baby really is or would be! I am 'such a girl' in this regards, and maybe it took me a long time coming, but I get so emotional on days like today when I see someone else experiencing those joys!

And, not that I'd want to TODAY, but I think being pregnant and going through delivery sounds wonderful! My friends and I sometimes talk about this, and, while as hard as it would be, we are almost jealous of those experiencing it! Again, not that we would today, but you get my point. I definitely, and sooner than later, of course the time being right, want to experience this! I really do and think it would make you appreciate life and all it entails so much more as well!

So, congrats to those who've gone through it, you're great! :)

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Best

Sometime the best, strongest relationships are those that take a break in the middle. Why? Because if you can be that strong of an individual to not know what the other is feeling or doing all the time during that time, imagine how strong you can be as a team when you do know.

Where you're going

I just heard a quote today that I thought was very true... "You can't really know where you're going unless you know where you've been." I think this is great... What from your past made you who you are today? If you're proud of who you are today, are you glad the past happened? Without the past, good and bad, we wouldn't have the experiences, wisdom, courage, and strength that we do today. For me, I know, like a lot of people, that I've made a lot of mistakes. But, in many ways, I'm glad I made them. Why? Because if I didn't I wouldn't know how to make things right in my present and future. My past makes me have hopes and dreams for the future!

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