Guilt

Is guilt in our lives something that we can let completely drive us? Do we feel guilty and wrong if we aren't giving 100% to the thing that we think we "should" be? IE... If someone took on a project for someone, but it wasn't going as well as they wanted, even though they were giving 100%, would they feel super-guilty because they feel that everything else is then "wrong", because its "taking away" from the project that should be the #1 priority? Some do feel this way. Is it right? Of course its not, but that's not stopping how some people would feel! How do they get past it? Why do they feel this way? I firmly believe that guilt is a huge factor in how someone lives their life. They let this guilt and thinking that they're not doing enough consume them. This starts to freak them out about all the other things in life... like those other things are "wrong" or "burdens" or "not right" in their life. Why?!



Also, why not LET someone help? If someone is willing, able, and happy to help the person feeling the "guilt" with anything... why doesn't that person let them help?! What is it going to hut? I say nothing! Would it hurt if it helped? NO! Would it maybe feel awkward or uncomfortable or like you (as the guilt-filled-person) aren't doing enough like you "should be"? YES! It will feel all these ways! Do family and friends think that these people should be perfect and do it all and everything runs perfectly smoothly when he/she does things all alone?! NO! Newsflash- they WANT you to have someone to help you! They know that having a partner is great, and everyone feels better!



Trust me, I have a hard time relinquishing control. At work I don't like others to touch my papers for fear they'll "mess them up"... I am a perfectionist. I like to be in control and know that I AM SO GREAT for doing it all... in my work, personal, and every-day life! I know that about myself... so I understand why people act this way...I get it. BUT, I also know that I cannot operate my life like this. As much as I'd sometimes like to be super-independent and not have to rely on others, the truth of the matter is sometimes life IS better with another person... and that's OKAY! It is okay to rely on someone else, and things are easier... the trick is to not feel the guilt when you let the person have some of your "stuff" in life. If you let yourself not feel the guilt... that is when you'll be truly happy! Make sense?!

The moral? Know DEEP DOWN that it is completely okay to relinquish a little... and that you don't have to feel guilty for doing so. This, then, turns into happiness! (For everyone involved!) Congrats, then you're a team!