Thankful!

This Thanksgiving, I'm a little sad, I'm not gonna lie... I want to be spending it with my love, and thats not happening, so its a bit of a downer. BUT, I am thankful for a lot of things! (From an email forward I received that I LOVED!!!)
I AM THANKFUL:
FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME, AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE. (OK, I dont have a wife, but you get the point!!!)

FOR THE HUSBAND WHO IS ON THE SOFA BEING A COUCH POTATO, BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS. (Ok, I dont have a husband either, but I have a kinda somethin sometimes... and would be thankful for it!)

FOR THE TEENAGER WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME, NOT ON THE STREETS. (Someday I will!)

FOR THE TAXES I PAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM EMPLOYED .

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE.

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING, WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING, AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME . (again, someday!)

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT BECAUSE IT MEANS WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH.

FOR THE PARKING SPOT I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION .

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM WARM. (altho I still prefer turning it up @ others' houses! ;) jk)

FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

AND FINALLY, FOR TOO MUCH E-MAIL BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE THINKING OF ME.

Live well, Laugh often, & Love with all of your heart!

And, I'm so thankful for those I love, my health, being able to help and be there for people, and having people and times to make me smile!

Stress... and RELIEF!

Stress relievers... (some funny… all true):

· Workout
· Hold hands w/your loved one
· Have a drink
· Have sex
· Scream or yell for a few minutes (not AT someone, but to vent)
· Listen to music
· Get a massage
· Drive around
· Do something about the problem if possible- take control

Many more, I’m sure…but on those days when work (for me today- I could scream!), kids, family, money, or anything else is stressing you out… do one of these. Or all of them. I’m for sure going to do the majority of them… yes, not just one, today is one of those days for ALL!! AH! All of them are a must… What stresses you out? What do you do to fix it? Do you take it out on someone you love? Go to them for help? Internalize it? Remember…. They love you, they want to help! Let them help, but don’t take it out on them… that’ll just double yours and their stress! Relax…. Things could be much worse. (Just a note… I’m saying this for myself today… so far at work its “one of those days”…I’ve got a plan though, and am taking control to make it better! And the other things will help ease it as well!) One day at a time (yes, there was a time I hated that saying)… and tomorrow is a new day and can be better!

Is the grass greener?

So in thinking about the classic quote, "The grass is always greener on the other side", I wondered about its validity. In the past year I've had life go as far down as its ever been for me. It was terrible... I thought I'd forever lost the people that I had had in it for over 2 years @ the time. The person and family I thought was becoming mine slowly slipped away. It was the worst thing ever. And I still don't understand how acceptance to some people doesn't seem to work both ways, but that's besides the point. During this time, HE thought the grass was greener. Someone else was gonna make it different, make life better, feel the same except better. Well, that wasn't true. The hands don't fit the same, lips touch the same, body feel the same, voice speak the same words and laugh at the same things. That's the true treasure... And hard to come by. Sometimes, like what happened then, you want what you had back because you realized you were dumb for letting it go. Well, things turned around during that time and I thought it was a fresh start... Which in many ways it definitely was or has been. Now this subject came up again for me recently in a way, thinking about the future. Then it did with my good friend today. She had been with her guy for almost 5 years, and the difference was that he started to treat her bad. He talked down, acted a little inconsiderate, and didn't seem to have the same life goals and wants as she did anymore. Their sex life was also almost nonexistent and not too great when it did happen. This to me is a huge difference then mine ever was, and a definite reason to consider the other side. Either way won't be perfect, but everyone should be with someone where there's chemistry, mutual respect, common morals, dreams,and goals for the future. For me... Who knows if it is greener on the other side?


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Happy

Oh happy day.... you know what I love? Feeling needed. Feeling wanted. Feeling appreciated. Feeling loved. But who doesn't?! Have a happy day!!! :)

Don't judge a book, person, or relationship by its COVER!

So… I recently spoke to a friend about my relationship, her relationship, another friend about hers, and yet another about hers. What do they all have in common? Every single one is different. AND, on top of that… what some people don’t understand, is the only expert on the relationship is the people that are in it. They’re living it. Breathing it. Tasting it. IN IT…. every…single…day. So, while a friend can give good advice or help with things that worked for him and her… they are by no means an expert on your relationship. This is my biggest pet peeve… who gives them the right to say if they think you should or shouldn’t be together, or to point out problems that have never been problems for the two of you! Just because those two may have some specific relationship issue or problem, doesn’t mean that the second it comes up in yours, that it’s a problem. The two of you may totally do things differently than the two of them. Who’s to say one way is right and one way is wrong?! This makes me extremely mad. An example… a friend of mine called me a few weeks ago to tell me about her night and consequent next day. Well, her boyfriend drank too much the night before and couldn’t wake up to go with her somewhere the next day that they had planned. Now, that doesn’t sound too good, huh? She doesn’t think so, and was not happy with him. BUT, let me tell you… he is a great guy. He treats her good, is there for her, cares for her, and they love each other. She was halfway embarrassed and felt like she had to stand up for him to explain to me. She didn’t! My feelings on people in relationships are that if they are with someone that makes them happy, living the life they want to live, who am I to tell them that’s not good or the way it should be? Their way sure may be different than mine, but that doesn’t make it wrong!!! Jon and I, in 3 years, have had plenty of ups and downs. But things that may not make one of us or us together mad, one of my friends thought was just terrible. We’ve never really argued about money, and that’s what the topic brought up was about. That made it clear to me that her and her significant other DO argue about money, so it must’ve been a sore subject and something she thought was bad if she heard us mention a funny difference about it! Him and I laughed about it the next day when we heard it. Another thing is, I don’t think my relationship was been or has been perfect. BUT, no one’s is! My point is that each person and each couple have issues that mean more or less to them than others, and to someone else those may be the exact opposite (means nothing to you, means the world to them). As long as both parties treat each other well and are happy, who cares?!?! It’s not your business! Live your own life and if you don’t like what the other person (your friend) does, or disagree about who she is with. REMEMBER- you don’t have to like it. You’re not her. You’re not the one dating or married to who she is. If you are truly her/his friend or family and truly love her/him, all you can do is get along, be supportive, and be there if there are problems (not to say you told them so!) Has anyone had experience with this? Does it annoy you? Have you ever had someone tell you these things? I DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT THINK IT IS RIGHT FOR ANYONE TO JUDGE A RELATIONSHIP THAT THEY ARE NOT IN!!!!

Have a SUCCESSFUL Relationship!

SUCCESSFUL Relationships- Long Term!
We all know relationships, especially good ones, take a lot of hard work. They take dedication and playing a two-way game. Here are some musts for having a good one. And who doesn't want this in life?!

· Chemistry (actual chemicals in both bodies that cause us to react in certain ways) (pheromones, oxyyocin, endorphins- making you miss them when they’re away, love to be in the same room w/them, etc)
· Respect- admire the other for their values, morals, and conduct
· Attention-give her/him flowers or something special, call just to say you love them, help them with things around the house;(FYI women want to feel cared for a loved and cherished- not just when you want to have sex or need something!
· Honesty- be truthful about whereabouts, thoughts, feelings
· Opening yourself- have passion, but when it starts to fade some days- do something else to be vulnerable to them
· Selflessness- considerations for your partners feelings and compromise
· Communication- be able to express yourself and listen to the other person.
· Appearance- take care of yourself like you did @ the beginning; dress up not just for special occasions
· Comfort- makes it lasting; when you can share in long-term involvement, overcome obstacles- you can’t get that with just anyone!
· Spend time apart- do things with the girls/guys once a week/month…
· Spend time with other couples- invite them over for dinner that you and yours cook; if you have kids all get together!
· Have date night once a week- reconnect, focus only on each other- bond!
· Appreciation- you get busy and used to each other and this goes right out the window; think of something daily your partner does and thank them for it, it’ll help you weather storms!
· Cuddle!
· Tell each other really personal things…. You’ll be able to read each other’s minds and finish each other’s sentences!

Playstation\XBox vs WII

So I heard something today that got me thinking about life, growing up, money, etc. A friend of mine said he was thinking about buying his child either a Playstation or an X Box for Christmas. Well, I knew he already had a WII that rarely got used...so, thinking I was helpful...I said something to the effect of, 'oh, you could always sell the WII'... Meaning then he would have the money for the game thing he wanted, since the other one didn't get used. I thought that's what I grew up with so to me that seemed logical. I got home now and it suddenly dawned on me that some people don't have to give up one to have another. So me thinking I was helpful may actually have been annoying, like I didn't think 2 were necessary! Duh Heidi! I know it could have been perceived that way, which was meant by me as a way to have money to buy it! It took 6 hours for me to realize that some people can afford to buy and have both! Anyway. This is just another example of how you grow up affecting the things you say or do as an adult. All I would have needed was for my friend to say, oh, sell it to have the money? No I have the money! Lol. I knew he does in the 1st place that's why its so funny to me. But, sometimes it takes someone saying it to dawn on ya! Oh well. Kind of a funny story now, but tells the moral, which is... Don't assume what someone says is what they mean! Communicate! Ask them if you don't understand why they would need to sell their WII! Ha. The other moral? I think if you CAN have both a Playstation or X Box AND a WII, do it!! Most people want better for their kids than they had... So, why not?! :)


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